I’m not going to lie and say all types of men are attractive. Alpha males are point blank more desirable by females. It’s the guys who have that shameless charisma and confidence about them who always seem to get the attention from the ladies. There’s books, websites and endless content on how to be a “real” man. The thing is, you can act like an alpha male all you want, but there is one thing that separates the wannabes from the men and that is….drumroll please…you already know. It’s confidence.
You’ve heard it a million times before. “Just be confident”, “be yourself”, “love yourself”. It makes you want to roll your eyes so hard your neck breaks. It would be nice to just push a button and presto! You’re confident! So how do you achieve this confidence everyone speaks so highly of. Here are the steps to get there:
1. Define
Get out a pen and paper and write down all the things you like about yourself. Take into account your appearance, your personality and any other traits you think are worth mentioning. Aw, isn’t that all nice and cuddly. Now I want you to write down everything you don’t like about yourself whether it’s your height, your tendency to procrastinate, your beat up old car etc.
2. Re-Frame
Now I want you to take all the things you don’t like about yourself and twist them around so they’re actually cool to you. You’re not short you’re like a Frodo from Lord of the Rings, a hobbit adventurer. You don’t procrastinate, you just really like to have fun and do what you want to do. Your car is from 2002 it’s basically an antique. See how different you feel about these things? The purpose for doing this, is that you will no longer feel “bad” about having these traits if you, yourself, think they’re cool. You are basically immune to being belittled or made fun of.
3. Identify
Now you need to form your identity. What kind of guy are you? “Alpha” doesn’t mean rough and tough. It means you are one hundred percent you, no apologies. Maybe you’re fun-loving like a puppy dog, or a total nerd who likes to research everything and geek out. Take all your main attributes and magnify it. Instead of trying to be someone else, take yourself and times it by ten. It’s helpful to write this out as well.
4. Execute
Now that you know who the hell you are. It’s time to go out in the world and BE that guy. Wherever you are, hold that identity in your mind. It will completely change how you react to things people say to you. Realize that you are the “boss”. You think you’re cool. And since you actually took the time to create proof, you really believe it this time. You are now a true alpha male. Just like you’ve always read about.
